Chapter 6

Hello Friends! Today’s topic is… Fidelity in Marriage

Perhaps the first real post was a bit long, this time around it will be a little more friendly to the casual reader.

Thank you for taking your time to come and see the thoughts I have placed here.

Let’s get started!

Here is the quote I will be basing this post off of.

“Often we think that infidelity primarily happens when spouses do not love each other enough,  when the marriage is bad, when sexual intimacy is suffering, or when a more attractive alternative comes along. But infidelity is not primarily about love, sex, or attraction; it is about boundaries – where we draw the line.”

My main question for you today is how have you seen simple things lead to infidelity?

Or if you have not seen it, why do you think simple little things often lead to larger offenses?

I have to be honest, this is not a topic most people are overjoyed to think about. However I think that people not thinking about fidelity in marriage leaves them less prepared for preventing adultery in their marriage. In life if we choose to not think about something it does not mean it will not happen. So to be ready to combat infidelity we need to know what we are or will be fighting and have a plan of attack or defense.

What are good ways you can think of that will fortify a marriage from possible attacks or threats?

Another threat to marriages today and will become a greater threat in the future is the casual outlook people are taking towards marriage.

How can we protect marriage and how can we help others see the value of marriage?

How can we help others help us protect our marriages?

Pictured below my brother-in-law, sister, myself, and my
 husband.

We need to protect what we value, I value marriage in general and I value my marriage specifically as well. I know that no one is perfect, that we can not nor should endeavor to control our spouse, instead we need to trust them and trust that they will do the right things when we are not looking. 

I think some of the best ways we can help prevent infidelity from gaining even a crack of a door into our lives can be:

To never be in a car alone with an adult of the opposite gender (that is not blood related).

Never meet with another person alone for lunch or dinner that is of the opposite gender. 

Do not accept flirtations nor offer them to anyone but your spouse.

Always wear your wedding ring.

Pray when you feel tempted.

Talk freely with your spouse about anything you think could develop into something unhealthy and make a plan together of avoidance. 

Do not do anything your gut is screaming "No you really should not do that."

Lastly be smart, is it seems like a dumb idea, then don't do it? Is a moment of fun worth the damage done? 

Thank you everyone.