Hello again my friends,
Today we will be talking about what can lead to a wonderful and amazing marriage.
The quote comes from chapter 3 of the book we have been discussing here thus far.
Though it is a simple quote it is very powerful and something I have felt as important and true for a long time.
“The one commandment was to love as Jesus loves, thus setting the standard for the pure love of Christ that should be sought in marriage.” (pg. 30)
So for some people this thought is entirely will strike them as new or odd, and for others it may be what they are already doing or planning to be doing.
My first question for you is:
What was your first thought as you read that Christ-like love is something that should be sought within a marriage?
I think it makes perfect sense. Marriage can prove to be grounds for refinement, none of us enter a marriage already being entirely patient, forgiving, humble, entirely honest, as well as many other attributes that Christ held. We may be really good at patience, but when you get married you soon find out you still have a long way to go.
I personally believe for a happy marriage to thrive it should carefully be modeled after (click here for the text of the verses) 1st Corinthians 13 and should be filled with long suffering, kindness, and love unfeigned.
We live in a ‘me’ culture where we are taught by the media and the actions of many people around us that life is about pleasing ourselves, and that if we can do some good for others it should be at no real pain to us. That idea is wrong and so against what would make a healthy marriage thrive. Who really wants to be married to someone who all of the times only does what they feel like and only rarely gives token gestures of kindness?
Okay no, you are probably thinking “this is great in theory Julee, but how do you really live that Christ-like every day?” my answer to that is, life is a journey and we are not expected and nor should we expect to have it all down today, we need to take our time and do our best to progress and move upward with each new sunrise.
Another reason this should seem like the best way to run your marriage is to think of the many causes for divorce. Can you think of one reason someone has been divorced over, that wasn't rooted in selfish and un-Christ-like behavior?
Another strong reason is based off of verse 22 from section 42 in the Doctrine and Covenants which says “Thou shalt love thy wife with all thy heart”. (click here to see original) It is pretty clear that the Lord wants us to love our spouse entirely and the best formula in my opinion is to model your life after 1st Corinthians 13. Yes love all those around you, but always put your spouse a bit above others with your affections and priorities.
My husband and I are not perfect and being newly married each day we are finding crossroads where we can choose to be selfish or selfless. Each little choice adds up, I hope that we can find a way to truly love our spouse and do all it takes to grow in charity and devoted love towards them.
Thank you again for reading and please comment and leave me your thoughts, disagreements, ideas, or questions.
Here is another picture from our recent honeymoon.