Chapter 23

Hello my dearest friends!

Today we will be discussing themes from chapter 23 which is entitled Crucibles and Healings: Illness, Loss, Death, and Bereavement.

This quote comes from pages 239-240

        “In many ways, the principle of opposition is an important part of the crucible experience. Many of life’s experiences are oppositional in nature and involve learning through contrast and comparison…” later they go on to say “Scholars in family and health sciences have explored the oppositions and paradoxes of illness experiences, noting the emotional roller-coaster ride that is both draining and empowering.”(McDaniel, Hepworth, Doherty, 1997, p. 3).”

        I myself have gone through many crucibles in my family as the years have progressed. The first one I recall comes from my childhood. I was 5 years old and my beloved grandfather passed away in a hospital bed in the room next to mine from cancer. I remember that time very well. I remember my mother talking on the phone a lot and making lots of arrangements. I know it was a very difficult time, but it drew us closer.

        There have been many difficult times that have happened over the years. My mother has a heart condition and so I was very familiar with calling 911 from a young age. My mother’s illness allowed for me to see the priesthood administered and my testimony grew as I watched her deal with the challenges her poor health presented her.

        Most recently my parent’s divorce occurred, and then the loss of my treasured home that I had found as a 15 year old girl. The opposition in our life allows us to grow into stronger and more empathetic people if we allow it to. Though it has not been so easy to cope with their loss as I begin my own marriage, I know that it is helping me live in reality and helping me value the  delicate relationships that I currently have.

       This chapter talks about coping with the suffering and pain that occurs within families. All families will have difficulties, all people will lose someone or something dear to them. The ultimate good that trials can afford us, is knowledge and refined characteristics.

What trials have you faced in your family?

       How have you seen another person or family cope well with loss, death, or illness?

What blessings have you seen from hardships you or someone else you know has had to face?

Aunt Julee (me) with my darling niece and nephew

       I want to express my gratitude for the Savior Jesus Christ who took on my burdens to help them be lighter. I know He loves us and will help us through all hardships we are called to face. In the Book of Mormon, in Alma chapter 7:11 which says:  “And he shall go forth, suffering pains and afflictions and temptations of every kind; and this that the word might be fulfilled which saith he will take upon him the pains and the sicknesses of his people.” ( Click here to see more)

      I know he knows me, loves me, and has helped me to overcome the very dark and lonely times throughout my life and I know he will help you.  As we each go through hardships, try to keep in mind it won’t be forever. You are loved!